Simplicity and complexity need each other... Opposites do attract!

It’s that age old saying opposites attract. This saying has been batted around for centuries. And in fact, it's very true when it comes to love relationships.

Yet we still question; Do opposites really attract and will a relationship work out if you both like different things?

Truth is we are attracted to people who or different from us, that’s what make them so alluring. My marriage counsellor once asked “close your eyes, now imagine your dating someone who is just like you! How is that relationship?” well fuck me I had nightmares for a week after that.

When you have kids the hardest part is parenting the YOU outta them, so imagine dating a version of you?

Scary thought I know.

In every relationship we like different things, it’s what makes us work. We try new experiences, I never liked Drum and Bass till I meet m Hubby, he never liked rock or indie music till he meet me. Now the concerts and bands we see are such a mix, it’s great. We do so many weird and wonderful things that we wouldn’t normally enjoy, travelling to places, days out, home life.

I guess in a sense, our attraction to the opposite personality can be seen as our subconscious minds driving us towards becoming a more complete individual, by causing us to face the areas in life which are most difficult to us.

There are always two types of people that seem to work together, yet we all sit back and wonder how they are together because they are so different!

I’ve listed a few examples of the people you will meet in relationships.

The laid back one, who is so chilled they could be horizontal and the other one is the planner who has OCD tendencies.

They drive each other nuts but they work at calming the other and making you more grounded.

In my relationship I’m the laid back type who doesn’t freak over majority of things, like money, house and all that adulating stuff I should worry about (My hubby might disagree though) however, if I’m flying. Then I turn into OCD Norma and freak out checking for my passport every 2 minutes in case I’ve lost it!

The Bath people and shower people.

I love a bath but my hubby prefers a shower, he says that the only things that floats are corpses and turds, and jokes that I’m a dead floating turd. Personally I need a bath to relax, whereas he just wants to get in and out quickly!

Then you have the morning and night people!

I hate morning people, so chirpy and can achieve everything in a morning before I’ve got out of bed! But I do more in the evening then they can. It’s natural that in a relationship, one prefers the other, so don’t have a go at the night people, we need our sleep so we can pick up the slack in the evening when your morning people can’t function!

The Extrovert and the introvert.

If you’re the loud and outgoing type who will chat to everyone and anyone, you will find your partner is the social hermit who hates people. They would rather curl up in their comfys are just chill at home.

Dating Apps are great, they look for compatibility, tinder we check out what the person likes to see if it’s similar to us, when we chat up someone we always ask what do they like and compare if it’s the same as us.

We need to stop this, when we meet someone don't ask them if they have things in common with you, ask them about things you don't like.

If they are opposite to you, like different things but have some things in common, it may just work out for you. After all we are generally attracted to partners who compliment certain aspects of our personalities. We need to complete each other. Those people whose traits we wished we possessed, but don’t, we are drawn to them like a moth to a flame.

The same cannot be said for other kinds of relationships. When it comes to work colleagues, or friends, we are not especially interested in dealing with people who are very unlike ourselves. We are most comfortable with those who have similar interests and perspectives, and we do not show a lot of motivation or patience for dealing with our opposites.

Lilly xox